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Ok. We may end up doing a last minute 1-2 day Disney run at the end of this trip. Any recommendations for us Neither of us have been to in over ten years, two adults, no intense budgetary constraints. Im interested in the Star Wars stuff but open to any other suggestions!

Don't buy it if you can't fix it (or sharpen it, or replace parts).

friends, can you recommend your favorite marker brushes for Like copic/blendy type markers for sketchbooking and illustration

There are not many people I can honestly call a hero, but is one of those people. His idea of  has been particularly influential on my outlook on life and especially when it comes to technological advancements. When Kevin turned 68, he posted 68 bits of wisdom, written for his children, on his blog. Years later he turned the post into a book called Excellent Advice For Living (get it on  or ), which I highly recommend. Inspired by Kevin, here are 50 bits of wisdom on my 50th birthday. Above all, dont be an asshole. Be curious. Be honest. 

1. You will be remembered for how you make people feel, perhaps more than anything else. This can either open doors or close them.
2. There is so much in the world we cannot explain. And just because something is inexplicable, does not make it untrue. Its also worth mentioning that sometimes, especially when it comes to science and medicine, the explanation for things can change. Truth can and should be revised as new information becomes available. Assume that at least some of what we accept to be true now, might not be in fifty years.
3. Luxury used to be measured in dollars. It is now measured in time. We mistakenly believed for a period of time that being tethered to devices and inboxes was an indication of importance. The opposite is now true. The ability to truly disconnect to be untethered, is a luxury. This shift happened exceptionally fast. 
4. Learn to embrace and even welcome constant change.  
5. No matter whats happening in your life, no matter what you are struggling with, music has the power to change your mindset. Its worth keeping track of songs that lift you up. Create a playlist or simply write them down. When you need them, they will be there for you. 
6. Dont be late. If you plan to be on-time, theres a decent chance youll be late. At the very least youll be rushed. If you plan to be early, you are much more likely to be on-time. The only exception is social gatherings or parties. No one wants to be the first one at a party.
7. Do not fall into the trap of letting someone else decide what it means for you to be productive.  
8. Cynicism is born from the death of curiosity. Maintain a child-like curiosity and spend your life attempting to satisfy it.
9. You are destroying or creating at every moment.
10. Find things you enjoy reading. If youre reading a book that you dont like after really giving it a try, dont feel bad about putting it down and not finishing it. But if youre thinking about putting it down because its challenging you in some way, keep reading it, especially if its widely regarded as a classic.
11. Developing the ability to read signals and patterns is an underrated skill.
12. Everyone likes talking about themselves, often even those that deny it. Ask deep questions that avoid discussing what someone does for a living, at least until the very end of your conversation. Making friends is easier when youre curious and vulnerable. Human connection is the most important thing in life.
13. Act like you belong. Youll be surprised by how little other people care that youre acting. 
14. Wear sunscreen, or better yet wear UV protective clothing, but only after youve gotten some morning sun.
15. Practice gratitude every day you wake up. Your time is finite and you probably wont know just how finite it is until you do. Dont wait to start living.
16. Life isnt about happiness, its about love.
17. Remain curious about the world around you. Visit places and do things that make you feel small and insignificant.
18. Cynicism is another word for cancer.
19. Challenge yourself to use positive, affirmative language, even when you are feeling negative.
20. Cultivate deep self-awareness to know when you are being dishonest with yourself. As Richard Feynman once , You must not fool yourselfand you are the easiest person to fool.
21. Life begins where your comfort zone ends. Living a life worth living means you will experience discomfort.
22. Touch grass, especially when you are feeling disconnected from yourself or the world. Nature reveals what matters and heals us.
23. Most people dont ask. You will set yourself apart by asking. 
24. Every decision you make, every action you take, is out of love or fear. 
25. Make plans with people you love. Extra points for doing it in advance. 
26. Collecting experiences is better than collecting things.
27. Relearning how to play as adults requires a willingness to unlearn. Play is innate in all of us, not just children.
28. Anger and outrage are synonymous with fear. When you feel it rising in you, and especially when you feel it come on suddenly, especially after hearing someone speak or seeing something that offends you, take a few deep breaths and challenge the feeling. Search for a reason as to why you might be feeling the way you do. Is it because of something you believe to be true How have you come to believe it to be true Especially now, we are taught and conditioned to be outraged when we dont agree with something. Being able to remain calm, even when something offends, disturbs or frightens us is a superpower. Being able to regulate our emotions and have a conversation about a thing we disagree with is a skill worth practicing throughout life.
29. When people show you who they are, take their word for it.
30. Theres no such thing as free. Youre paying with something.
31. Everyone is born a creator. Consumption is the antithesis of creation. Passive consumption amounts to junk food for our brains and robs us of time that we could be spending actively creating and living fulfilling lives.
32. Giving up your attention should be something that you do deliberately and in moderation. Every device and app in our lives is competing for our every waking moment. 
33. Read a little bit of something long like a novel, a long-form essay or a book of poetry. You will be amazed at the number of things you can read when you build a habit of reading a little every day.
34. When youre young, make friends with people older than you. When youre older, make friends with people younger than you. Theres so much to learn, no matter what your age. Develop a love of having deep conversations with other people.
35. Take care to notice small details in things. Notice the color of soil, the shape of rocks, the creases in someones face, the shadows cast by the sun, the smell of the air. Use all of your senses to notice. Practice capturing those details in some form.
36. Its worth paying extra for higher quality things that are made to last, especially when they are made by expert craftspeople or small companies that focus on doing a few things better than everyone else. If possible, buy it directly from the maker.
37. Avoid plastic whenever possible, especially when it touches things that go in your body.
38. Sleep outside at least a few times per year. A great tent and sleeping bag will last you a lifetime or more if you take good care of it.
39. Decorate physical spaces where you spend any amount of time with plants and art that make you happy.
40. Call your parents. They love you and you will want desperately to hear their voices when they are gone.
41. Interview your family members and friends. Record it, if they allow it.
42. Keep a journal and build a habit of writing in it. Writing is thinking on paper.
43. Spend time by yourself every once in a while. Eat alone in a restaurant. Dont look at your phone. Notice people. Eavesdrop. Think.
44. Society rewards conformity. There is no prestige in being just like everyone else. Embrace your weirdness, whatever that may be. It doesnt need to make you stand out, but sometimes its nice when it does.
45. Stand up for what you believe in. When youre vocal about it, be prepared for people to disagree with you.
46. Study history. It will give you amazing context and insight into the present and future.
47. Get comfortable with death. It is unavoidable. Become aware of your mortality and the mortality of those you love in order to live better. 
48. Practice self-compassion and acceptance. The more you are able to love and accept yourself, even when you mess up, the more capable and better you will be at developing deep and meaningful relationships with others.
49. Consider the source and investigate incentives. Do the work to find great sources of truth and remember that you are easily fooled.
50. Two seemingly opposing truths can both be true. Do not let others convince you that the world is black and white.

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How do you deal with consent given and flirting and interest in you expressed by a drunk person you got know while they were drunk

My first experience with that went suboptimally (the following interactions went awkward as mutual interest perceived by me wasn't present anymore after they woke up next morning) and i wonder if my elders or otherwise more experienced have some advice.

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"How do I stop myself from getting overly attached in the process" (and more)

How do you know if you are capable of doing a thing A hard thing. Especially when the odds are stacked against you. How do you know when to give up and stop trying

Speak to your employer if youre not being paid the minimum wage or living wage.
If youre not getting the minimum wage when you should be getting it, your employer owes you the difference between what you should have been paid and what theyve actually been paying you.

Going to give a shot for work . Any or

Check out the latest article from Walter Rhein:

How Writers Must Get to the Point as Quickly and Clearly as They Can

Financial Advice Ignored (Askholes)

What is an You don't have folks who ask you questions and then don't quite follow your advice Kind of like that only a little worse.
Don't ask for advice if you aren't going to follow it, or some folks might just give you opposite advice to see if you do the right thing just out of, um, stupidity

If I had one suggestion to make to parents about mobile apps, my suggestion and stance would be to keep Castle off of the phones. Children and teens don't need another social media app, because they already have Facebook, Twitter (X), Insta, Snapchat, etc.. Castle is bad for the user's mental health, and is another Social media platform with micro transactions added in. Avoid Castle. my advice.

Compelling advice on how to foster a creative mindset by immersing yourself (acutely and temporarily) in the subject-matter of another field, discipline, idea, or topic that is completely unrelated and opposite to your present focus.

What is the diametric opposite of what you are working on right now Go and find a publication, book or documentary on that topic and dive in.

Heart Power Podcast

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The evils of procrastination - any hints and tips on how to overcome them

5 Writing Exercises to Flex your Writing Muscles

Rising Kings

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Better Thinking

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Thinking about quitting Google It isn't just a technical process -- it's a massive project. Here's some advice on how to tackle it.

Dont forget to inform your water company when you move out, or you might end up paying for someone elses water bills!

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The phrase "Build it and they will come" is an absolute lie.

- Building a fun game is not enough.
- Building an ethical game is not enough.
- Your game will not gain traction on its own (in most cases).

You have to back up your game with regular socializing, community building, and marketing
OR you have to have the money and business and people-management skills to be able to pay someone else to do it for you.

The Pivot Academy Podcast

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Next time someone gives me advice about something they know nothing about, I may reply with:

"If you're feeling ill, bloodletting is a good way to balance your spirits"

"You only need to learn numbers and writing to get a job"

"Postal mail is the best way to stay in contact during emergencies"

Nicki Minaj Comes Through With Some Celebrity Business Advice

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Please people Im getting crazy Do you have any advice

Snickering alert! I've just read this out loud to my husband after he kept looking at me curiously as I laughed and read it the first time around.

This woman's wonderful story reminded me of some 'free range' moments in my children's younger years, and now they're doing the same with their four children. Good advice about how to encourage unstructured playtime, too.

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Everyone who is good at something has a trail of mistakes in their wake. Open source means sharing the learning experience with others.

I created a debate technique (or maybe it was already invented), when I used to mass debate. It's called "Creating Goalposts." which is a set in stone technique for what would change your view. Essentially removing the need for debate.

Let's say for example, Sun Screen is more likely to cause skin cancer than sun burn.

My goalpost here where I am already pro-sunscreen, is to show demonstrable evidence that sunscreen is more likely to cause skin cancer, over no sun protection at all.

This does a few things.
1. It sets an immovable goal post (Common problem in debates is moving the goal post)
2. This gets the debatee to think about their own views. At least that's an intended effect.
3. This becomes both an honest and unbiased way of debating.

Correct me if I'm wrong on any of this though. This thought came about because of hearing what a controversial metal singer has been saying, and how I would address the said controversy.

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Small side note, librarian/book reviewer peeve: if you are promoting your book, don't just send a flyer full of praising blurbs. Send a damn description of what the book is actually about so I know if I want to consider it or not.

Telling me Schmuck and So said the book is "superb" =

If we are always waiting for the time to be right before we take action, will Time ever be rightI don't believe Time will ever redesign or reconfigure itself for our sake to give us room to act.
Your choice to act has to be the perfect time

There's lots of great cakes in the cake shop.

But if you eat them all you'll be sick for days.

Does anyone know if a PS2 can read a small disc I bought camcorder size DVD-R by mistake.

Writing Emotional Scenes

Might be a good idea, just sayin"

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