I know what it is like to have to break these spells and unravel these knots. I am a kinky, polyamorous, non-binary trans woman and bi lesbian that grew up in a white trash community, but was lucky enough to find opportunities where others would pay me to live, work, and study all over the world. I dream in multiple languages and live with multiple mental illnesses. I have been with hundreds of people on the worst days of their lives, supporting them in finding their way forward while I worked as a crisis counselor. And I am told I sometimes have a way with words that folks find helpful.
What you will find here is a question and response blog. I don't claim to have answers, but I will offer my own questions, thoughts, and experiences in case they might be helpful. My responses may be a bit...queer...often being at odds with what is normal and normative for most people. But I'm not people, I'm the mad woman in the woods, and you didn't come here to hear what people think.
You can submit questions and queries on my site (), email me at forbiddenqueeriesgmail.com, or in a private mention on mastodon right here
NOTE: My responses in this blog are my personal opinions and perspectives, and are NOT offered as counseling or therapy. Please reach out to a counselor or therapist is you're in need of that support!
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Title:
"A place to ask questions when your bones start to murmur..."
When it feels unsafe to talk, where can you talk about what is going on When others don't understand, how can you begin to understand what you are going through When you are afraid to say a question out loud, who can you consult
Forbidden Queeries is a new question and response blog for those thoughts, feelings, and questions that you don't know where else to go with. Or just anything else you might want perspective or thoughts on from a person like me.
You can call me Mallie Sinn (she/they). A person dear to me once told me that in a different world, I would be that mad woman in the forest who people bring gifts to in order to ask for wisdom about their problems. I don't know if what I have to offer is wisdom, but I am one of those folks that people seem to unpack their darkest secrets or untold traumas to on a regular basis - and people tell me they appreciate the perspectives I offer in return for such trust.
Since then, I haven't been able to stop thinking about a poem by Kai Cheng Thom from "I Hope We Choose Love" (2019):
"if your bones should start to murmur and hiss
in a language that is not safe to know, then leave
...
break the spells they said meant safety, but did not
unravel the knots they said meant love, but did not
and run to the woods where the path is winding
run to the place where the ravenous hide
...
if you should start to think forbidden thoughts
then come for me"
-Kai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love (2019)
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Insane AdviceI've noticed I'm recommending more and more often.
Each time, it feels right to give some first steps advice.
So here are a few:
1. Go into settings and set everything up to your liking.
Yes, your search engine can be customized for YOU.
2. Check out "Lenses".
They can be extremely handy: for instance, I use one to query a handful of 3D printing model catalogues at once.
3. Pay attention to the icons in the search results.
Many are buttons you can click to promote great sources or demote bad ones.
For example, I de-rank a bunch of media outlets that provide misinformation and prioritize or even "pin" resources like Wikipedia, GitHub, etc.
4. Try Kagi Assistant.
If you have a paid OpenAI or Anthropic subscription, it won't surprise you. But if you're still not using LLM's in your daily life, it could be a good place to try them.
Just remember that by default your chats are removed the next day, so if you want to keep them, you need to either mark them for saving or disable chat deletion in the settings. And yes, Assistant has settings too and you can even create personalized assistants there.
5. Look at Kagi Translate.
It offers nuanced translations with helpful context and examples. Though slightly slower than Google Translate, the added depth is worth it.
After a week of using the above, you probably wont return to Google.
A bit of an annoying morning.
make it next to impossible to of
**I do know how to remove them**
BUT
Analytics cookies opt-out requires an
or
Mouseflow link doesn't work
The service to help you understand shouldn't be making it tricky to opt out.
If there isn't a single click opt-out I have less trust for the site.
Relentless Momentum
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Maximizing Muscle Growth with Dumbbell Goblet Squats
Performing the Workout
Initiate the squat by pushing your hips back and bending your knees simultaneously.
Keep the dumbbell close to your chest to maintain an upright torso (prevents leaning forward).
Lower down until your thighs are at least parallel to the floor (deeper if mobility allows).
Ways to Support a Grieving Family (Besides Flowers)
When someone you care about is going through a heartbreaking loss, its natural to want to do something that shows love and comfort. Flowers are beautiful, yes but they fade quickly, and grief lingers far longer. If youre searching for ways to help that last beyond a bouquet, here are some gentle, meaningful ways to truly be there for a grieving family.
Offer Help Thats Clear and Simple
When grief is fresh, even small decisions feel impossible. Thats why the classic Let me
Welcome to Self With Dr Hayley D Quinn
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If you're a tourist looking for Germany in India (for food, customs, etc.), really the best place to find Germany is Germany.
aka "Stop looking for your country in another."
PS: applies to any pair of countries two countries named only for ease of writing.
I am eating (yogurt covered pretzels) and watching:
Giving Unhinged
Lucky Last: Empowering Dreams, One Story At A Time.
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Why'd You Think You Could Do That
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On Putins advice, Trump launches assault on mail-in ballots and voting machines
President Trump said Monday he would renew his assault on mail-in voting after Russias autocratic leader, Vladimir Putin,
-inballot -invoting
Grow And Evolve With Krystal
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Life pro-tip: make good choices.
*Bonus* tip: don't make bad choices.
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All advice is prophecy.
Follow it & you'll never know what fate you dodged.
Ignore it & you'll find out.
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Hey There Thrivival
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By popular request, it's here!
FORBIDDEN QUEERIES, my new Question & Response blog is live!
I'll be publishing it under my pseudonym, Mallie Sinn, to keep it separate from my career and make it clear what I offer there is personal opinion and not therapy or counseling. You can read it by following or on the blog site itself:
I am currently taking open questions from everyone at forbiddenqueeriesgmail.com or in private mentions to
If you want to support this effort or get top priority for your own question, please subscribe on the blog itself at or on my patreon for projects under my pseudonym
Women often neglect their sisters for misters. When they first meet a guy, its understandable to want to spend a great deal of time together. But its important not to lose ones friends in the process.
Posted into The Friendship Doctor
I am glad that I paid so little attention to good advice had I abided by it, I might have been saved from some of my most valuable mistakes.
Gene Fowler (1890-1960) American journalist, author, and dramatist. b. Eugene Devlan
Skyline: A Reporters Reminiscence of the 20s, ch. 8 (1961)
Sourcing, notes:
Here a quick opinion i have on youtube they should continue adding features in new updates that give us small creators a fighting chance cause what good does it do is all people see are the people with millions of views and top subscribers thats why i say there gotta be alot more options to further help us overall i am enjoying the app but i would enjoy a category of tools to help us out along are journey to make things easier!
Man took from , ended up with
Law firm Grimshaw & Co wins appeal in Spencer on Byron leaky building case
That decision noted how the building defects litigation was successfully settled in 2013. Then the body corporate, represented
The Only Piece of That Matters
Das ist jetzt sie dritte Generation einer Lila Luzi Chili-Pflanze. Die Frchte sind sonst etwas grer als Himbeeren.
Dieses Jahr ist der Baum kleiner (zu wenig Sonne), aber die Chilis sind dreimal so gro.
Kann mir das mal jemand erklren
Im going to my first Comic Con this weekend! Hope to see actors from one of our favorite shows there (photos and autographs are too expensive, but crossing our fingers that maybe we can snap a pic from a distance!). Any for a first-time attendee
I see a lot of people get discouraged applying for even when they desperately need it since the process is so long, and can take literal years from your first filing. You may even get denied multiple times, I had to file 7 times and have an advocate behind me to finally get approved, and it took over a year.
What they don't realize is rewards:
You get a lump sum payment that makes up for the time between when you first filed, and when you got accepted.
Leaked Treasury advice lists possible outcomes of Labors yet-to-be held roundtable
A leaked Treasury document has revealed a number of recommended outcomes for the federal governments yet to be
Ansuz
When this rune appears in a reading, it can often mean that you will sail through a current troubling situation - provided that you stay aware and in-the-moment in order to recognize potential signposts to guide you on your way.
Tips and Benefits of Dumbbell Split Squats
Stand with feet hip-width apart, holding a dumbbell in each hand at your sides.
Step one foot forward into a split stance (about 23 feet apart)
Bend both knees to lower your body straight down, keeping your front knee aligned over your ankle and your back knee pointing toward the floor
:youtube: **Reading Tips To Get Out Of And/Or Prevent Reading Slumps**
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This weeks tools to better leadership
Balance is a practice of responding to needs through reflection and adjustment in motion. Affirm the present in connection, then proceed in clarity of next action.
Micronutrients for Muscle Building
Micronutrients which include vitamins and minerals, may not directly provide calories or protein for muscle growth, but theyre essential for the processes that make muscle building possible.
Magnesium
Vitamin D
Zinc
Potassium
: Get out for a daily . By the can be especially .
advise: increasing. No free spaces in the
or in . They want more .
Will I spend more
No, I don't have it.
Will I walk less
Yes as I live by a narrow where walking means in .
There are valid reasons to involve outside experts in code of conduct enforcement, but its ultimately a leadership responsibility.
word of the day
Does anyone know how to convince a friend to stay away from algorithmic social media. Does anyone else notice that no matter how hard you try people still dont care about thier privacy. Is it just me or is any one else pissed about the lack of intelligence in today's society.
